Things have been tough at work. There is a lot of infighting, but I am mostly staying out of the fray at least visibly. What I find very interesting and heartening is that my male colleagues are more upset about the way that I am being treated than the things they are having to endure. Pretty sweet really. They pop by my office to tell me that they are behind me and to ask me what I think we all should do. They also seize opportunities to explain to the dragons why they are wrong in their opinions of me, without me asking or even mentioning it. As a department we are rallying to fight the dragons and I guess I am the fair maiden (who rides a horse and wears armor) around whom they are rallying. The dragons are trying to pretend they aren't dragons and are trying to shift the blame away from their actions. I keep reminding the knights that there are lots of problems, but the dragons need to be taken care of before we can deal with the other problems. So far the knights agree. The dragons are getting nervous and trying to play nice with us, but we are of the mind "Too little, too late!"
In other news, I have gone out on a 4th date with a very nice man. He is courting me! At one event he saw they had my favorite candy and bought me some. Another time, he brought a book that we had discussed. I have read that the standard now is to ask a woman to come "hang out" instead of actually date. I like that I am dating a man who actually makes plans that he thinks I will like, who asks me far enough in advance that if I can't make the night he suggests we can make alternate plans. I'm not sure where this is heading. I usually only hear from him once a week or week and a half. Maybe it is just a friendship in the making but it is nice and I'm just going to enjoy it.
IF he's buying you candy, Cygnet, he's interested in dating—no matter how casually it happens! He sounds like a nice gentleman. My only concern is that he might not be bold enough. He should be contacting you more often. How do you feel about him? What kinds of signals do you think you've given him?
ReplyDeleteYes, I agree with you Kevan. I am not sure of his intentions. He works a lot and long hours and perhaps his focus is more on work than on relationships. It is hard to know how I feel because we are in contact with each other so rarely, it is like starting over each time. I like him, he is nice and that's about all I can say right now. I like that he is pursuing me and that he is paying attention to things I like. Hard to tell at this point, but as I said, I will just enjoy the times we are together.
ReplyDeleteMaybe the next time you go out you could ask him to do something the following week, maybe fix dinner, have tickets to a particular movie or something of that sort and then follow up during the week.
ReplyDeleteJust a thought.
Enjoy it you should Cygnet! It is so nice to be thought of. That is exactly what he is doing. Not only is he thinking of you, clearly he is listening to you as well. Drink it in my friend!
ReplyDeleteWillie
I am very sorry about the Dragons Cygnet but happy for the knights who are gathering around.
ReplyDeleteI've been wanting to ask about this gentleman and am so glad to hear about your dates. He sounds like a good guy!
I shall hope that your dragons are slain soon and that your knights are loyal and fierce:) I am glad that you are enjoying your special guy. He may be wondering if you are interested? I hope he will be more bold soon.
ReplyDeleteBea
Well, sweetie - he sounds like a very traditional man. This is a good thing, I think this is wonderful.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with being treated well by men, whether it be gallantry at work or by a nice man in your personal life. You deserve every bit of it.
hugs
lillie