I heard a psychologist on the radio the other day talking about Fifty Shades of Gray and why it was so popular. I found I agreed with much of what he said...for me at least...
Here is a quote
"Fantasies about being sexually dominated are quite common among women. But there is a major theme that I have observed that contributes to the
tendency for many–even, apparently, a majority–of women to desire
and/or submit themselves to this kind of treatment. Namely, our
prevailing culture’s secular-feminist ethic makes it taboo for women to
want to be vulnerable in any healthy ways. Women are told they must expect to take care of themselves. They must
be strong, self-sufficient and powerful. Of course there is nothing
wrong–and everything right–with being a capable, competent woman. But
many women are taught that they must take this a step further. They
can never allow themselves to be vulnerable. They must be competent at all things, and at all costs. They don’t let themselves need anyone,
least of all a man. Even in a healthy relationship, there are many
women will will not allow themselves to let their guard down, give up
control, or open their heart.
An inherent character of femininity is receptivity. That is, the ability to be open, generous, receptive to others. Not dependent, or needy, or a victim, but intimately relational
in character. The secular feminist culture pressures women to deny
their basic receptivity, but nature will not be denied. The receptive,
feminine impulse continues to assert itself, and if it cannot find
legitimate expression in healthy relationships, it will assert itself in
more insidious ways."
I other news, the leader in the student group I wrote about in my last post is acting as if nothing happened, she is approaching me to confide in me and apparently she is spending a lot of time crying about her life and challenges in one of my colleagues offices. I asked him what the tears are about...he didn't know.
The burdens people carry...wow!