Saturday, November 22, 2014

Update on Handyman Suggestion

Well, I got an e-mail from the man the handyman suggested.  Just so you are all up to date, we met for coffee on September is November 22, so by my reckoning that is approximately 81 days since I last heard from him. 

He claims he had intended to e-mail or call, but he got swamped and he hasn't had time to socialize even with his close friends, let alone people he has just me.  Then he said it was outside of his comfort zone and he couldn't handle any additional stress. Then he apologized for not calling. Then he told me he was sick and that he hoped my semester went well...

The End.

Now I have to figure out HOW or IF I should respond to this.  He did take the time to find my e-mail address, but he didn't really ask me out again or anything.  Perhaps he is looking for me to say "That's okay" or "Maybe we can get together".

My gut response...which I usually never go with is..."Sorry I stressed you out, that is the last thing I would want to do to a guy, so I guess it's a good thing you didn't call me for 81 days because I have moved on.  I am currently being courted by five men who actually call me and want to meet.  Huh, go figure, they must be interested."

Now that that's out of my system it's time to work on the Christian response.  :-)

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Accepting or not?

Well, I haven't been here lately.  I guess life got busy with me going back to teaching and getting busy with life.  So, a few updates.

I did meet up with the handyman's friend.  He was late arriving, so I already had my hot chocolate.  I got the vibe right off that he had come because his friend had asked him to and so he wasn't too concerned about being late.  We talked for two hours, he said he had things to do and said we had a lot in common and I haven't heard from him since.  I guess he did his duty.

The guy I have been talking to on-line for a while thinks we are too far away from each other.  I guess that is the go to when you want to stop things.  It is easier than saying I don't think you're the one for me.  I sort of wonder about his commitment though, because he never wanted to exchange numbers.  He was content with internet chatting.  So, a few tears were shed on that one, but I am moving on.

I am still chatting with a man in South Carolina.  He seems like a good match and we are enjoying writing about ideas and things in the news.  I fear he is hesitant because he has been divorced and is currently working on getting a divorce from wife number two and I guess is gun shy.  Again, hasn't asked to talk on the phone. 

I sometimes fear I am destined to be alone and maybe I am better off. I should just accept it, but then I think why would I have this strong desire to have someone if I would be better off...

Sometime life is just hard and confusing and tear inducing and I'm not really sure what I can do about that.  :-(