Sunday, April 9, 2017

And so it continues

So, I haven't been around for a while.  I guess I have been sort of feeling sorry for myself and trying to get out of the funk I have been in about dating in general.  So, here's the latest and greatest.  I have an overuse injury of my shoulder.  I have been going to the physical therapist and I leave each time with some major bruises.  Ever heard of cupping?  Yeowch and it leaves bruises, not to mention the therapist's finger prints all over my arm.  I have also been going to a massage therapist...yeowch!  I guess I never really realized how connect all the muscles are, so the short story is that your biceps are attached to your traps and if your lats are too tight, your traps tend to compensate which affects your biceps...or something.  Suffice it to say that I never realized how painful having your arm pits and sides massaged can be.  On the up side, it seems to be working.  So I'll keep going.

The new job is going well, but I am hating the hour commute.  I am learning lots, so I think that I might be able to find something closer to my home at some point in the future.  The guy responsible for getting me the job, a really sweet man, was asking me the other day if I was looking.  I told him I was, but what I was doing was fine, although I was not fond of the commute.  So, I can walk away from that job if I need to without guilt.  Which is grand.

So, updates on my dating life....

Remember the guy that bought me chocolate?  Well, he texted me the next weekend about talking and promised to call.  Guess what!  He didn't! I haven't heard from him since.  Ditto the guy I met the next weekend who has major issued with his ex-wife.

I met a few more guys and one was even a veterinarian which would have melded very well with my love of all animals.  But he had been divorced 16 years ago and had gotten prostate cancer and was dumped by his girl friend of 4 years and then took up with a new girl friend who saw him through the cancer and they split up after 11 years.  We met at a Mexican restaurant where at the end of the meal we split the bill and then I got a long song and dance e-mail about how he didn't think we fit because of the prostate cancer.  I wrote him back a long e-mail about how if he thinks he isn't man enough because he has to use chemicals (his word) to have sex he needs to stop it!  I said a few more things which then he became interested, with all kinds of comments about how he needed to wait to get married and he wasn't sure he would ever want to again.  I am not rushing to the altar, but clearly he wants to have all the benefits of being married with out the commitment.  I told him he seemed to be pushing me away with both hands and moved on.  Oh, oh and when he is in town, he stays at his ex-girlfriend's house...yeah...definitely moving on!

I met a man who is an RN and works with children with Type I diabetes.  We seemed to hit it off and we even went hiking together.  We texted all this week, and he even invited me to go to a jazz festival last Thursday.  I already had plans, so then things went to radio silence.  He's been married twice so that concerns me a bit.  But he seemed nice.    So since he didn't seem to want to do anything this weekend, I went out with a nice man who is about 7 years younger than me, has two kids and has a fulltime job (believe me, this is a valuable thing, it is amazing the number of men who don't work- the vet I mentioned above doesn't and is trying to minimize his income so he qualifies for government assistance).  I never realized how important finding a man who has a job is to me, until recently.  We had a great time!

We talked for about two hours and he asked as we were leaving it I wanted to do it again.  The doubts kicked in a bit on the drive home because we met on a website, but after we met, he didn't ask for my phone number or e-mail address.  So, I tried to self talk myself into the "Que sera, sera" mindset.  Well, I just checked the website and he sent me a note thanking me and asking if we can do it again.  Things may, I repeat, may be looking up!  Please God, I hope so!


  1. Hi Cygnet, great to see you post. Sorry to hear about the shoulder injury, ouch! Hope it gets better soon.

    Sending positive thoughts and crossing fingers that things are looking up on the dating front.


    1. Yes, the shoulder is a total bummer, but it is getting better. Thanks for your kind thoughts. I went out with the RN tonight and got a note from the other guy for a get together this weekend. Here's hoping something comes to fruition.

  2. Hey Cygnet!

    Remember my back/hip issues? I had cupping done, and people poking and prodding me for months. I will tell you cupping on an already sore body?- I'd take a spanking! lol. Hope your arm heals up soon, it is brutal to not physically feel yourself, I know.

    As for dating...keep going lady! Law of averages and such. Personally I prefer the talking in print for a while, makes life easier in many ways. Perhaps the younger man feels the same way, is shy or is conditioned by society to believe that chatting this way is preferable. AND you know, nothing says you can't ask HIM for his number.


    1. Hi Willie,

      I do remember those issues! I hope they have all totally gone away. Yes, I have bruises on top of bruises from the cupping. Having not been spanked, I will have to take your word for the pain ranking. :0)

      So, the younger guy and I have met for lunch and that was when I thought he would ask for my number or e-mail or something. He was away on business and is coming back later this week, so he has asked for a second date. I really liked him a lot. Hopefully this time he'll ask me for my number. I have not had good luck being too forward with men, so I am trying to let him take the lead....we'll see. I do hope the law of averages eventually turns in my favor.

  3. It seems to me you're meeting a lot of men and that's good. You sure can't find a good one if you're not out there trying. As for that long drive, hit the library and get some books on CD. Long drives are so much better with a story.

    1. Yes, I am meeting lots of men, PK, and that is good. I just wish one of these guys turns out to be THE ONE. I am very ready for that to happen.

      I should try to book thing. Thanks for the suggestion. Right now I listen to talk radio. I am driving at 6AM so lots of light chatter in the morning.

  4. Sorry you've had so much trouble with your shoulder, Cygnet but happy it's getting better...wish mine would. Who would have thought that finding a man who was single, gainfully employed, age appropriate without mommy or ex issues who actually wanted a relationship rather than a one night stand would be so hard to find. *sigh* Sure hope the newest guy works out for you.

    Hugs and blessings...Cat

    1. You are so right, Cat! I don't think finding a single man, gainfully employed, age appropriate and without mommy or ex issues would be too much to ask for, but it seems to be! Maybe the younger guy will work out for me. He asked me out this weekend. I was out on a date tonight with the RN.

      Can't do the one night stand, so need a guy who wants to court me. Here's hoping!

      Thanks for the hugs and blessings. Mine are coming right back at you.