Too Much Woman

I have begun to think that for some men there is such a thing as too much woman, and by that I mean that there are men who prepared to lead a woman as long as she meets certain criteria:  not too educated; not too capable in the out of doors; not too good at making decisions; not too intelligent.  The list could go on, but you get the idea. 

The conclusion I have come to is that these sorts of men realize that their leadership abilities have limitations and there is such a thing as too much woman for them to handle.  I also think the opposite is true. There is such a thing as too much man for a woman and by that I mean there are women who thrive on a lot of control and others that need a lighter touch or maybe they want one that they can push a little bit.

For the men, I think it ultimately boils down to confidence.  Does a man swell with pride when his woman is accomplished, even in areas that he doesn't?  Does a man encourage his woman to achieve everything she can and wants to, or does he feel like he is in competition with her and doesn't want her to get too far ahead?

I guess I just find myself wondering why men want to limit the women that they will consider as good partners.  So many single men seem to have lists of all the things she "can't have" or she just won't make him happy.  (Perhaps that is why they are still single? Whereas the ones that don't have those lists are successfully leading.  I am not talking about momentary doubts about an ability to lead, I am talking about diligently looking for a woman who will not be a challenge to their ego or their leadership abilities), Maybe they just aren't confident enough to guide and lead an intelligent, resourceful, independent minded women successfully...and they know it....

Rich Dead Relatives

I recently heard about the "other" folder on Facebook.  If you click on messages in the upper left hand corner, you will see right next to your inbox the word other.  This is the other folder for Facebook.  Since I heard about it I thought I would check it out...it turns out I have two very wealthy, very dead relatives.  One barrister is ready to send me 13.5 million for the one dead relative and the other...merely an attorney, wants to send me 16.5 million for the other dead guy.  By my count, that is 30 million dollars coming from two relatives I never met...so I am planning on getting right on sending those attorney types all my personal information (insert eye roll here) so I can retire to Tahiti.  Anybody want to go with me?  Who knows how many very dead, very rich relatives with attorneys that have no way of contacting you except through Facebook there are that you don't even know about,  who want you to collect their estates and retire to Tahiti with me.

So, who's with me?  Check those Facebook Other boxes!

Now for something totally embarrassing

Okay, I know lots of people who admit to embarrassing things on their blogs...I guess it is my turn.  So, now you have the opportunity to make me feel better or to laugh at myself a little more than I already have...so here goes...I met Will.I.Am the other day and had no clue who he was...yes, I know...I know....but, but, I know who he is NOW....giggle....

So, my question to all of you is....without googling....do you know who Will.I.Am is?  Just off the top of your head? It's okay, you can admit it either way...you're among friends here...clearly at least one clueless friend, but friends none the less....

Now for something a bit lighter

I don't know why, but I was talking to a guy about school being out for summer and then about Alice Cooper.  From there I thought about the Marriott Commercial he made...it is pretty funny.  So here is a link if you'd like a laugh.

Alice Cooper

Some other interesting Alice Cooper facts:  He has been married to the same woman since 1976 (37 years..go figure)
                                                                  He has three children (What that must have been like to  have     Alice Cooper as a father)
                                                                  He is a Christian (Apparently his father and grandfather were evangelists)
                                                                  He plays a lot of golf... (not so weird I guess, a lot of celebrities play golf)
                                                                  Phoenix is his home town (Yeah, Arizona!)

Never really prepared

While I was away on a business trip, my sweet cat friend of 19 years died.  She saw me through graduate school and 15, yes 15 moves.  My dear friend who was taking care of her, dug her grave so that I wouldn't have to come home to that.  That's a true friend! 

She was old and lived a good, long life, but you're never really prepared.  My house is quieter and my other cat is doing her best to comfort me.  She is staying close and purring...not her standard behavior.  She's always been affectionate, but not affectionate like the one who died. It always amazes me at how much animals can pick up on your emotions.

Pets are family members and their loss leaves such a hole.  You give your heart freely, knowing that it's going to be broken, but they love you so much...that it is totally, completely WORTH IT! 

Hugs to all you Canadians!

So, I just have to ask, what is it with you Canadians and DD?  Hugs!  A lot of my bloggy friends are Canadians and HOH/DD types...I'm still not sure what term to use. Why do I mention this?  Because I have started corresponding with a Canadian of the HOH variety.  It is very early yet, but he seems like a keeper.  We have very similar views on how a relationship of this sort should be and we have a lot in common just lifewise...likes, dislikes (although he doesn't like animals on the furniture - good luck on that one, I have cats).  We both like to travel and read and he actually believes in God (Don't laugh those three things are pretty hard to find in a guy) among other things.  So, we are tentatively starting to see if we might work out and it is making me smile.

It is still in the getting to know you stage, which is fine.  I am a thinker so I like to take things slow and that seems to be okay with him.  I hope you all will be around for advice...I suspect I am going to need it.

Men and Women working together

Yesterday I had two men at my home to do a couple of things I needed done that I couldn't do myself.  The first to arrive was in his twenties the second to arrive was in his fifties.  I got the fifty year old started by showing him what needed to be done and we discussed what he thought he needed to do and I agreed.  I turned back to the twenty year old and started to tell him what I wanted from him and he started out with, here's what I was told you want, but here's why that decision is wrong about materials.  I told him I understood that he was supposed to push that other material, but I really wanted the materials that I had indicated.  He tried again to tell me I was wrong.  I then told him that if he didn't think he could do what I wanted that I could find someone else.  He apologized and said they COULD do what I wanted.  But over the course of the next 10 minutes he mentioned the material that he thought would be better several times.  I told him again why I wanted to materials that I requested and after measuring, he was on his way. 

In the meantime, the fifty year old shows up with the materials he needs for the repair.  We had a great time talking to each other and I told him about the encounter with the 20 year old. He laughed and said he would have stopped asking the first time I explained why I wanted what I wanted.  He laughed again and said, "He's just young.  He hasn't learned yet."  So, I followed him around as he fixed what I needed and then he needed my help for the final repair.  He was asking me about myself and I told him about growing up with a lot of men and helping them.  I said, they always told me what needed to be done and I told them what I was capable of doing and they just had to work around that.  I told him my rules for moving furniture are that I always walk forward, with the piece in front of me, I don't do the behind the back carry (how do men do that?).  I also always carry the lightest end even if that means we have to move the piece around so it is oriented so that I walk forward.  Finally, if I say I need to put it down, I NEED TO PUT IT DOWN!!! even if we are two feet from where it needs to be. The men I worked with were okay with the rules because they needed the help and were smart, realizing that men and women are different and that men have to modify how they work sometimes to make things go smoothly.  The fifty year old agreed and said it is about communication with woman.  He said men know when something isn't going to fit through a doorway and there is a silent communication to rotate it.  With woman, he said, you need to discuss the plan ahead of time.  As we worked together, he did just that, told me what he was going to do and made sure I was ready to do my part......verbally.....grin. I guess thirty years of marriage had taught him about men and women working together and it was a pleasant afternoon for both of us.